Tips for Requesting Letters of Recommendation (Helpful Form Included)

Completing your college applications is undoubtedly a big task. As you focus on checking off the to-dos and getting closer to having a complete application prepared, it’s easy to forget the importance of adding a letter of recommendation to your application materials.

Your story is important. Your essay is important. Your potential interview is important. But, sometimes, an even more impactful part of your application can be any letters of recommendation from those who know you the best.

Put Yourself in Your Teacher's Shoes

Imagine you're a dedicated high school teacher who cares about students, makes personal connections, and meticulously prepares every lesson. Now imagine being a teacher during the fall semester, when you are asked to write over 100 student letters of recommendation. Because of the type of relationship that you have fostered with your students, they feel you know them best. Now, that teacher feels obligated not only to write the letters for the students but also to personalize those letters and make each one outstanding.

Without the appropriate amount of information about each student, it might be difficult for the teacher to write 100 unique and interesting letters that best exemplify each student. Knowing how important letters of recommendation have become in the admission process, this teacher is stressed and crunched for time. Now, having put yourself into your teacher's shoes, what can be done on your part, as the student, to make the process simple?

We break it down for you in this blog post!

(Psst...we recently published a podcast episode all about letters of rec. You can listen to it below! We've woven insights from this podcast episode into this blog post, so if reading is more your jam, carry on.)

Here's what we cover in this blog post:

• Why should I ask for a letter of recommendation?
• When should I ask for a letter of recommendation?
• Who should I ask for a letter of recommendation?
• How do I ask for a letter of recommendation?
• What should I provide to the recommender? 
• How important are letters of recommendation? 

Why should I ask for a letter of recommendation?

Letters of recommendation help paint the picture of who you are. They can provide critical information on the value you can bring to a college and why a college should choose you. 

Letters of recommendation can significantly strengthen your college application. They can help paint a picture of who you are as a student and help you stand out.

“The recommendations that come in on your behalf carry as much weight in many cases as the actual essays you write.” — Peter Van Buskirk, former Dean of Admission

💡 Key things to remember

• Understand that rec letters are not just a formality—they are core storytelling tools
• Reflect on how you want to be seen beyond your GPA or test scores
• Consider the story you want your letters to help tell

When should I ask for a letter of recommendation?

Timing is everything and will help your teachers write stronger and more sincere letters of recommendation. Many students wait until the fall of their senior year to request letters of recommendation. However, it’s best to ask teachers in the spring of junior year, and at least 3 weeks before the deadline. Then, the teachers have plenty of time, including the summer, to make the letter strong and sincere.

Since teachers often become inundated with letters of recommendation requests in the fall, some may limit the number they write, which is another good incentive to ask in the spring. In addition, it’s perfectly acceptable for a teacher to decline your request. While this rejection might hurt, in the end, you are better off having a teacher decline your request than writing a letter that is not strong. So, take careful consideration when asking your teachers, which brings us to the next section.

“If you're walking by in the hall and say, ‘Hey, can you write my letter?’—that's 30 seconds of effort. But if you give me real insight and preparation, I’ll give you two hours of thoughtful writing." —Julie Kampschroeder, former Counselor

💡 Key things to remember

• Give your recommender at least 3 weeks’ notice before the deadline
• Avoid last-minute requests, especially in the fall of senior year

Who should I ask for a letter of recommendation?

Typically, students ask their junior year teachers, since they are either still in their class or have just finished that class. However, regardless of the year you had a teacher, it’s most important to ask a teacher who will feel comfortable writing a solid recommendation about you. 

1. Choose teachers who know your strengths

For example, if you've always been a strong student and performed well in the majority of your classes, it might be difficult to decide whom to pick solely based on how you performed academically. Instead, think of the class in which you participated and contributed to the discussion, one in which you built a strong relationship with the teacher by advocating for yourself and asking for help or clarification when needed, or one in which you went out of your way to help others. You want a teacher who can speak to your work ethic, your concern for your grades, and your ability to seek help when needed and help others who need it. You should choose a teacher who pushes you to be your best and does not let you settle for good enough.

2. Choose a teacher from your desired course of study

If you have declared a specific major or plan on choosing a major, it’s wise to ask a teacher in that course of study, as long as you have also developed a strong relationship with them. Remember, teachers are there to help, and most of them thoroughly enjoy getting to know you!

3. Choose another adult who knows you well

There may be times when a student feels that his or her teachers might not know them as well as another adult. While you should still have your teacher and counselor send in their recommendations, it's acceptable to consider asking others who know you well, including supervisors of extracurricular activities, employers, representatives from community organizations, clergy, or summer program coordinators. However, it is wise to refrain from sending lots of extra recommendations. 

💡 Key things to remember

• Ask one teacher in a subject related to your intended major or interest area
• Ask one teacher who can speak to your classroom presence and communication skills
• Generally, we recommend asking teachers from your junior year, especially those who taught you for a full academic term
• Stick to the college’s guidelines: usually one counselor and one or two teacher letters
• Only add extra letters (e.g., from coaches or mentors) if they provide a new, unique perspective

How do I ask for a letter of recommendation?

Since you are asking someone to speak on your behalf and dedicate a substantial amount of time to it, you should ask for this recommendation in person. Prepscholar gives some excellent advice:

"Depending on your teacher's schedule and school culture, it may be appropriate to email your teacher to set up an appointment or meeting. Asking for a letter of recommendation solely over email could be interpreted as impersonal, distant, and less mature, an impression you don't want to make in the mind of a recommender.

I also wouldn't recommend asking during class time, but instead find time during a free period, after school, or whenever the teacher has free time to meet. The request may be short, but you still want to create space in case your teacher wants to further discuss your plans."

💡 Key things to remember

• Ask in person—not via email or text—whenever possible

What should I provide to the recommender? 

The College Board does an excellent job of explaining the five items to provide to each of your recommenders. It’s wise to print out these forms and put them in a folder with a thank you included. (And, yes, this thank you is in addition to the one you will write after the recommenders have submitted your letters.)

1. A completed student information form (such as this example recommendation form). Share your dreams and ambitions. Reflect on your strengths and weaknesses. If factors beyond your control have influenced your ability to perform as you would have liked, ensure your recommenders are sufficiently informed to help you tell your story. Give them the necessary information and insight so they can write well-balanced letters on your behalf
2. An Interaction Sheet on which you describe past events or interactions from the time in the teacher's class. This will help the teacher recall specific characteristics and anecdotes about the student. The chosen teacher is likely someone who made a difference in your learning experience. It is also quite possible that the teacher does not have an immediate recall of the circumstances surrounding the key moments of discovery for you in their classroom. By reliving such moments, you give your teacher the basis for a narrative to use in writing on your behalf
3. Assignment samples from the time the student was in the teacher's class. Again, this will help the teacher remember you
4. A brief synopsis of your goals and interests
5. A list of colleges you're planning to apply to, along with deadlines, and any appropriate forms

In addition to the list of colleges, students should explain to teachers how and where to submit their letters. For example, if your school uses Scoir, teachers and guidance counselors upload and submit their letters within Scoir. In Scoir, you would request a letter of recommendation through our system. However, this request does not replace all of the strategies listed above. First, talk to the teacher, provide them with the materials above, and then formally request a letter of recommendation through the Scoir system. Then, these letters become part of your application packet, which is submitted by the guidance counselors to the colleges.

If your school does not use Scoir just yet, let the teachers know which application you are using, such as the Common Application, which also allows teachers to send their recommendations directly through the website. If any colleges still require teachers to send their letters in the mail, then provide the teachers with a stamped and addressed envelope for each school that still wants to receive them in the physical mail.

💡 Key things to remember

• Prepare a Student Recommendation Form or “brag sheet” with personal context, goals, and family background
• Share an Activity Resume that highlights both in- and out-of-school commitments
• Include anecdotes, future goals, or anything not visible on your transcript

How should I follow up with the recommender?

You should always send each person who has written a letter on your behalf a handwritten thank you note, letting them know how much you appreciate the time and effort it took to write the letter.

If a teacher hasn’t yet written the letter and it’s getting close to the deadline, take a few minutes to stop by his or her classroom to ask if there is anything else they might need to finish the letter or to see if you can help in any way. At this brief meeting, it’s also a good idea to remind them of the approaching deadline. As you can probably assume, this does not mean you can barge into the classroom in a ball of stress and beg for your recommendation. Remember, this teacher is writing your letter of recommendation, and you want it to be a positive and supportive letter. Be kind, be appreciative, and be understanding.

💡 Key things to remember

• Send a handwritten thank you note after your letters are submitted
• Acknowledge the time and care your teachers or counselors have given you
• Keep them updated—let them know when you get into college!

How important are letters of recommendation? 

Admission committees put varying degrees of importance on the letters of recommendation. However, according to NACAC’s 2023 State of College Admissions report, the majority of schools still place some value on them.

*Data from NACAC's 2023 State of College Admission Report

While the importance of letters of recommendation varies from college to college, it’s essential to recognize that these letters provide admission officers with context around your academic performance. They provide critical insight into your work habits, learning style, and your ability to respond to challenges and setbacks. They can help explain irregularities in your academic program or performance and shed light on key factors that define your learning environment.

Putting in ample effort and time will help your teachers write the best letter for you. Give them ample time to write your letter and provide them with detailed information about you. By answering the questions on this student information form, you'll help the teachers better understand you and remember your time in class together. Finally, if you are an underclassman, begin building those relationships with your teachers now to make your high school years more memorable for you and your teachers!

This article was originally published on May 13, 2020. It was updated on April 24, 2025 for accuracy and comprehensiveness.